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The "Middle
Wife"
by an Anonymous 2nd grade
teacher
I've been
teaching now for about fifteen years. I have
two kids myself, But the best birth story I
know is the one I saw in my own second grade
Classroom a few years back.
When I was a kid, I loved
show-and-tell. So I always have a few Sessions
with my students. It helps them get over shyness and
usually, Show-and-tell is pretty
tame.
Kids bring in pet
turtles, model airplanes, pictures of fish they
catch, Stuff like that. And I never, ever
place any boundaries or limitations On them. If
they want to lug it in to school and talk about it,
they're Welcome..
Well, one day this little
girl, Erica, a very bright, very outgoing kid,
Takes her turn and waddles up to the front of the
class with a pillow Stuffed under her
sweater.
She holds up a snapshot
of an infant. "This is Luke, my baby
brother, And I'm going to tell you about his
birthday."
"First, Mom and Dad made
him as a symbol of their love, and then Dad put
a seed in my Mom's stomach, and Luke grew in
there. He ate for nine months through an
umbrella cord."
She's standing there with
her hands on the pillow, and I'm trying not to
Laugh and wishing I had my camcorder with me.
The kids are watching her In
amazement.
"Then, about two
Saturdays ago, my Mom starts saying and going, 'Oh,
Oh, Oh, Oh!' Erica puts a hand behind her back
and groans. "She walked Around the house for,
like an hour, 'Oh, oh, oh!' (Now this kid is
doing a hysterical duck walk and groaning.) "My Dad
called The middle wife. She delivers babies, but she
doesn't have a sign on The car like the Domino's
man. They got my Mom to lie down in bed
Like this." Then Erica lies down with her back
against the wall.
"And then, pop! My
Mom had this bag of water she kept in there in
case He got thirsty, and it just blew up and
spilled all over the bed, like
Psshhheew!" This kid has her legs spread with
her little hands miming Water flowing
away. It was too much!
"Then the middle wife
starts saying 'push, push,' and 'breathe,
breathe'. They started counting, but never even
got past ten. Then, all of a sudden, out comes my
brother. He was covered in yucky stuff that
they all said it was from Mom's play-centre, so
There must be a lot of toys inside
there."
Then Erica stood up, took
a big theatrical bow and returned to her
seat.
I'm sure I applauded the
loudest. Ever since then, when it's show-
and-tell day, I bring my camcorder, just in case
another "Middle Wife" comes along.
Selfishness
Chapter 12 of Bridges' book is on selfishness: a sin that we are clearly born with. Don't believe me? Before you even read about it in Scripture, look to an infant, who cries the very moment he/she is hungry. Observe preschoolers trying to play together during recess at school. Watch a basketball game with the 9th Grade team or the Varsity from our kids' school (lots of talent; too much selfishness). Bridges points out that the reason selfishness is so difficult to expose in our own life is because it is so easy to spot in others. He then goes on to deal with four areas of selfishness:
1. Interests. Philippians 2.4 says: "Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others." We're to look out for the concerns and needs of others around us; mighty hard to do when it's our own concerns that consume us. Our interests change, often depending upon the season of life we're going through. The author offers a test for us in this area: "A good test of the degree of selfishness in our interests would be to reflect on the conversation after you have been with someone and ask yourself how much time you spent talking about your interests compared to listening to the other person."
2. Time. Presently, this currency is more valuable than money to many of us. We don't have enough of it and we want more of it. When we get it, we don't want to save it up, we want to use it up upon ourselves. When we neglect the needs of others, it not just because our own interests are taking a higher place; it's also because we think our time is more valuable than theirs. Need an example: just watch the way you drive and think about driving next time. If you're zipping around people, muttering under your breath (or shouting out loud) about how much they're impeding your progress, then you need to examine your heart. In Galatians 6.2, God tells us to "bear one another's burdens." Put aside selfishness by helping others, giving them of your time.
3. Money. This would have been obvious to most of us. But Bridges doesn't talk about the selfishness of greed, at least not in the sense of gaining more. He directs our attention to the selfishness of not giving. Each year, WORLD magazine lists the results of surveys about the state of financial charity and giving. It's never encouraging. And when it comes to the church in this country, it's down right abysmal. If I remember last year's stats, it was somewhere around 2.5% given by church-going people. The observation was made, that if all who go to church (and surely, not all these would be truly regenerate) would double their present giving, there would be sufficient monies to feed nearly every starving person in Africa. Imagine what would happen if we'd tithe? John addresses our need to give to others and not be selfish in 1 John 3.17: "But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in him?"
4. Inconsiderateness. This gets worked out when we fail to think about how our actions or words affect someone else, whether they were the intended target or not. The person who is always late exhibits this sinful tendency. (Don't start making excuses for why you're always late; just repent, change and don't be late any more! Plan better and think of those you're holding up while they wait for you.) Cell phone etiquette is non-existent in our culture; which is an outworking of our selfish way of thinking and using this little device that has become so indispensable. Too many, especially among Christians, just have the attitude: "I say what I think. I call'em like I see'em. I speak my mind and I try to speak the truth." But do you try to speak the truth in love? (Ephesians 4.15)
The unselfish person seeks the other's good, concerns and interests ahead of his own. She seeks to balance her own longings with those of others around her. Obviously, our greatest example is Jesus Christ – "For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sake he became poor, so that you by his poverty might become rich." (2 Corinthians 8.9) I'm wondering if more families in their own homes would seek to put this sin to death, what difference would it make? At home, with our own families, we often put off all restraints, which means our own personal needs begin to take precedence over that of other family members. May we all ask the Holy Spirit to show us the evidence of selfishness in our lives. Then, may He grant us grace and strength to put off this besetting sin.
This Past Lord's Day
Things were quite hectic leading right up to the moment of beginning the service. I wish there were some way around that. No matter how well prepared I seem to be, there's always something that cries out for attention, someone's question from Bible Class preceding that needs answering, or something which I (or someone else involved in the service) forgot. Then it's run-huff-puff-get-the-item-copy-the-song-sheet-grab-the-object-lesson-for-kids-tell-the-elders-what-they-need-to-remember-greet-the-new-guest-family-find-my-wife-so-I-can-tell-her-to-invite-the-new-people-for-dinner-and-get-the-microphone-pinned-on-in-the-right-place. Plus, this week, for reasons that were out of my control (I'm thankful I've handed that responsibility off, but I feel so much for those who have taken all the details upon themselves), the songs were chosen quite late in the week, the bulletin finished Sunday morning, the worship team didn't practice until during the Bible Class hour and I knew not the full order of service 'til I "walked in the room". For one who likes to be well-prepared, I barely felt that way.
Add to that, the sense of weariness I've been feeling and it all led up to a second Sunday in a row where I really didn't feel like preaching. It's taken me 18+ years to get to a point where, when our family goes on vacation and we visit another church on the Lord's Day, I can sit under someone else's preaching and not feel like I'm shirking my responsibilities. This is completely different. At least during those times away I'm still looking forward to the opening of God's Word (well, okay, there were the two churches this summer that when it was time to do just that, it didn't happen and to me, at least, it was tremendously noticeable). The past two weeks have not been like that for me. It's not that I've dreaded not having anything to say – my messages were ready, notes were in hand and I had the theme picked out for some weeks. It's just that I didn't want to preach. I was too discouraged or overwhelmed or weary and felt like I had nothing to give to the task.
This is really disturbing to me. I think I know some, perhaps even many, of the reasons. I'm just not sure what to do about it at the present time. I spoke with another pastor/friend yesterday and sought advice from him. What he had to offer was quite good. It's getting that person to be "invited" to sit down with my leaders that concerns me. I don't want it to seem like I'm promoting myself and my own agenda. Yet the conundrum exists: if I don't, who will; and if I don't how long might this season go on; and, if I don't, how long before the congregation begins to notice (or how long will they tolerate what they've already noticed!).
This coming Lord's Day will be our emphasis upon missions. One local agency we support and participate with will be here at Cornerstone helping us remember Sanctity of Human Life Sunday. Then a couple whom the church has supported for many years will be here, all the way from Alaska. Our daughter, Rebecca, will also share a bit about an upcoming trip she's going on to Taiwan. This will make for a full service with no time for a "typical" message. I'm always eager to hear from a variety of God's servants in various areas, working and seeking to spread the grace of God through the Gospel. Yet when little consideration is given to whether there will be time for preaching, and if there's not, well, it's no big deal, that weighs on me. And at this present time, it weighs upon me quite heavily.
Usually, my solution to these seasons is just to do more. If you get busy, you won't have time to sit around and mope about how tired you are. Problem is, I know that this mind-set will not prove helpful at all right now. I've been there in the past and it hasn't helped then either. I do know it calls for patient and steadfast endurance. Faith perseverance and trusting that our sovereign Lord will grant rest when He deems it necessary.
I Got Nuthin'

Purgatorio's Back
Okay, for the 100s of you that...
Blast! All right, already. For the 3 or 4 of you that read this blog, I'd like to direct your attention to a blog that was around for a long time, took a bit of a hiatus and is now back. Great stuff. Hilarious stuff. And some serious stuff on occasion too.
I present to you... (drum roll, please)
I think
you'll enjoy Marc's sense of humor, spot-on sightings
of really bad Christian kitsch in culture, an
occasional serious posting, and, yes, I'll admit, I'm
nearly addicted to his "Divine Vinyl" (gag, wretch,
stomach flip-flops... I've seen album covers my
parents used to have!) He does all the things I wish
I had time to do! Great to have you back,
Marc.
Three on Thursday
Three Things People Say That Really Irk Me As A Pastor
1. "I don't mean to sound like I'm complaining, Pastor, but...."
... then don't.
2. "Some people are saying that..."
3. "I see that Church A is now offering...."
... I see. And we need to do that why?
Three Things About Gloomy Januarys in Minnesota that Get Me Down
1. Seemingly endless fog
2. January Thaw
... I'm thinking the U.P. with an average of 200 inches of snow each winter
3. Having to drive around in yuk sludge
And finally...
Three Good Posts With the Past Week
1. The Idolatry of Friendship
... especially good after yesterday's post on Pride
2. A New Twist on MADD
... finally! What a good parent should do!
3. Why We Shouldn't Quit Praying
... a good reminder for us all.
Let Me Wrestle
The heading for this section (if I understand correctly, Owen didn't really use chapters in his original) is this: There Will Be No Mortification of Any Sin Without Sincerity and Diligence in a Universality of Obedience. That's quite a mouthful sort of way of saying, "If I don't apply sincere diligence in my obedience in all areas of my life, especially in order to kill the desire to sin in my life, then I won't really be killing sin." To help better explain this, let me cite the first paragraph:
A man finds any lust to bring him into the condition formerly described; it is powerful, strong, tumultuating, leads captive, vexes, disquiets takes away peace; he is not able to bear it; wherefore he sets himself against it, prays against it, groans under it, sighs to be delivered; but in the meantime, perhaps, in other duties – in constant communion with God – in reading, prayer, and meditation – in other ways that are not of the same kind with the lust wherewith he is troubled – he is loose and negligent. Let not that man think that ever he shall arrive to the mortification of the lust he is perplexed with.
In other words, if I simply try to fight one area of sin, and not all others, and if I don't apply the same effort through the means of grace God has given me to commune with Him and grow in holiness, why on earth would I have any inkling that the one sin I want to be rid of will be got rid of? As Owen points out, it is all rooted in self-love: this one sin – or area of sin – bugs the daylights out of me; enough to make me go to great lengths to have some measure of peace in my heart against it. At the same time, however, I allow so many other areas to run full of neglect and sin and vile wickedness; or, I neglect my duties before God and man, in such a way as to show I really only want a bit of relief from the guilt of this sin, not the actual killing of it.
I was once asked by a young person, why God allowed us to continue in sin once we've become a Christian. Why didn't He simply blot out all sin in our life? Or, if I might add to that question, why doesn't He help me to blot out this one area of sin in my life that seems to beset me more than any other? Owen replies thusly:
Now, can you think that God will set in with such hypocritical endeavors – that ever his Spirit will bear witness to the treachery and falsehood of your spirit? Do you think he will ease you of that which perplexes you, that you may be at liberty to that which no less grieves him? No. God says, "Here is one, if he could be rid of this lust I should never hear of him more; let him wrestle with this, or he is lost."
Lord, let me wrestle. Grant me strength to do it, but let me wrestle. If You were to truly find me forsaking fellowship and communion with You simply because I pinned one sin to the mat and felt I had victory in my life, then let me wrestle! Do not leave me alone. Do not forsake me. Drive me to my knees in seeking all those areas in which I need kill sin.
Humiliation
SOVEREIGN LORD,
When clouds of darkness, atheism, and unbelief come to me,
I see thy purpose of love
in withdrawing the Spirit that I might prize him more
in chastening me for my confidence in past successes,
that my wound of secret godlessness might be cured.
Help me to humble myself before thee
by seeing the vanity of honour as a conceit of men's minds,
as standing between me and thee;
by seeing that thy will must alone be done,
as much in denying as in giving spiritual enjoyments;
by seeing that my heart is nothing but evil,
mind, mouth, life void of thee;
by seeing that sin and Satan are allowed power in me
that I might know my sin, be humbled,
and gain strength thereby;
by seeing that unbelief shuts thee from me,
so that I sense not thy majesty, power, mercy, or love.
Then possess me, for thou only art good and worthy.
Thou dost not play in convincing me of sin,
Satan did not play in tempting me to it,
I do not play when I sink in deep mire,
for sin is no game, no toy, no bauble;
Let me never forget that the heinousness of sin
lies not so much in the nature of the sin committed,
as in the greatness of the person sinned against.
When I am afraid of evils to come, comfort me, by showing me
that in myself I am a dying, condemned wretch,
but that in Christ I am reconciled, made alive, and satisfied;
that I am feeble and unable to do any good,
but that in him I can do all things;
that what I now have in Christ is mine in part,
but that shortly I shall have it perfectly in heaven.
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I'm Overwhelmed
Not literally, of course, but you all know what it's like when you read something that speaks so clearly to you that you just know the author has been given the ability to see right into your heart and mind, to know what most of the motives and intents of your heart are, and then to lay them out on the table right in front of you. As you sit there and see what was really inside of you, you recoil, you start to exclaim, "No way!" but quickly close your mouth, because there on every piece of sin and vile wretchedness is your name.
Chapter 11 of Respectable Sins: Confronting the Sins We Tolerate finds us looking at pride. Rather than address pride in general, which could have consumed an entire book, Bridges decides to focus his laser just a bit. There are four specific areas which he covers: the pride of moral self-righteousness (Bam), the pride of correct doctrine (Powee), the pride of achievement (Kapow!) and the pride of an independent spirit (Blam... he's out for the count!). I realize, that of these four, I don't escape from any of them. And the first two especially seek to ensnare me.
Moral self-righteousness is that sin which views itself as always on the high ground when it comes to other people's sins. If we're able to avoid the terrible, awful, deplorable sins that so many people find themselves wallowing in, then we feel superior to them. Ann & I know a person who was recently divorced, wrongfully so, and who is going to be getting married quite soon to someone who can provide her with all the financial wherewithal she seemed to lack in her previous marriage. This just keeps compounding the sins in her life. The conversations we (mostly Ann) have had with this woman continue to point out the flaws and evils in her heart. And we feel good about that! Superior! Better! Because we've never fallen for those sins... or have we? Even if we haven't, the sin of moral self-righteousness was raising it's ugly head in both of us, especially me
How can I guard against this sin in my life? Humility. Recognizing that only by God's grace have I not done the exact same things. Then recognize my own sinfulness before a holy God, which is just like anyone else's sinfulness.
The pride of correct doctrine is tackled next by Bridges. This one hurt perhaps more than any other. I don't view myself as a flaming Calvinist or one who seeks out all comers to do theological battle with them. But I have found myself, many a time, thinking, "Those poor Arminians; they just don't know any better." Learning to battle this sin in myself will require much more humble thinking and considerations; to realize that it has become acceptable in my heart and then seek to make it unacceptable. It doesn't mean my convictions will weaken, just the manner by which I express them.
Pride of achievement hasn't been a struggle for me... you have to have achieved something! Here's where my strong doctrinal convictions help me (and I don't think that's pride but let me know if it comes across that way): my strong view of God's sovereignty means that I accept all that I have – position, honor, possessions, accolades – as coming from His hand, not my abilities or success. However, that doesn't mean that there isn't the reverse side of this pride: pride in what I don't have. That sounds silly, but what I mean by this is the attitude that takes pride in one's smallness, humble state and lack of honors and recognition.
Teachability will help fight off the final form of pride spoken of in Chapter 11: an independent spirit. This type of spirit thinks they know it all and doesn't like sitting under authority. To be teachable, one must be dependent, humble and ready to obey another's words. Several verses in the Proverbs can help you here if you struggle with this sin: Proverbs 2.1; 3.1; 4.1; 5.1; 7.1.
A Bit of Humor for Your Day
Taking Up the Puritan Reading Challenge
How's the Weather?
Anyway, here's the forecast for the Rochester area; a bit unusual for us this time in January. The pictures to the side are from a major snow storm last winter. I love a really great snow storm. I don't have to get out and travel in it. I love to be stuck inside with no where to go for a day or two because of deep snow. Plus, it's just a beautiful thing to behold. How about you? Got any good snow stories or pictures? (I'm sure Erica can come up with all kinds of reasons she really and truly loves snow!!)

National Champs!
And by the way... I'd love to see Georgia's Bulldogs whoop up on them Tigers!
er, uhm, I mean Kansas!!
This Past Lord's Day
Yesterday's theme was on being people of the Word. It was one of those let's-start-the-year-off-right kind of sermons. One of the choruses we sang was Lynn DeShazo's "Ancient Words." I really, really like this song; I mean, if a song about the Words power to sustain and change doesn't move a pastor's heart then you probably shouldn't be in ministry. I've included the song in this post. Don't hit the play button and expect to hear Michael W. Smith singing at the top of his lungs from his Worship Again CD. What you'll hear will be Cornerstone's version of it yesterday. Here are the lyrics, in case you'd like to sing along with a handful of humble saints:
Lynn Deshazo
Verse
1
Holy
words long preserved
For our walk in this
world
They
resound with God's own heart
O let the ancient words impart
Words
of life words of hope
Give us strength help us cope
In
this world where'er we roam
Ancient words will guide us home
Chorus
Ancient
words ever true
Changing me changing you
We
have come with open hearts
O let the ancient words impart
Verse
2
Holy
words of our faith
Handed down to this age
Came
to us through sacrifice
O heed the faithful words of
Christ
Holy
words long preserved
For our walk in this world
They
resound with God's own heart
O let the ancient words impart
Chorus
Ancient
words ever true
Changing me changing you
We
have come with open hearts
O let the ancient words impart
Verse
3
Martyr's
blood stains each page
They have died for this faith
Hear
them cry through the years
Heed these words and hold them
dear
Chorus
Ancient
words ever true
Changing me changing you
We
have come with open hearts
O let the ancient words impart
We
have come with open hearts
O let the ancient words impart
O let the ancient words impart
2001 Integrity's Hosanna! Music
CCLI #432103
My sermon was focused on challenging us to be
people of the Word. Ken Sande once said that the
reason it's necessary to repeat that which sounds so
obvious and so basic to us as Christians is that we
leak. So, it's always a good reminder and exhortation
to stay in the Word, stay grounded upon the Word. If
we wonder why some Christians seem so powerless and
so immature, it can probably be traced back to little
time in the Word beyond a Daily Bread reading. Little
contact, little Christ-likeness. Little input, little
growth. It's just that simple.
We also began a new teaching series in the
Adult Bible Class using
Modern
Parables.
I think this is going to be a great time in the
Word, studying six of the parables (yesterday's
was
Hidden
Treasure).
The goal is to grow in our knowledge of the
Kingdom of God and to live out that calling in
this world at present. Check out the web site and
the previews. Then come and join us for the full
deal each week.
Sorry About the Delay


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